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5 Things Your Grieving Friend Wants You to Know

what your grieving friend wants you to know

Before last year, I couldn’t say that I know much about the grief process. Unfortunately, our family was rocked by multiple deaths during the last half of 2014, and we became accustomed to the awkwardness that comes with navigating work and your social circle while you are in the throes of tragedy. No one knows what to do, what to say, or how to act around you, so they don’t do anything. During the first few weeks of my husband’s sister, Erin, being missing, SO many people wanted to know what they could do to help…but we were in such a fog of sleep deprivation and emotional overload that we really had no idea what to say to our friends. There’s no handbook for these things, and no one is sure what to do or how to help- even when they really, really want to. These are the things I wish I had been able to tell everyone who wanted to help but didn’t know how: 1.I DO want to talk about it                 I want to tell you how much I miss the person I lost. I want to tell you that this feels like nothing I could have ever imagined and I’m not sure how I’m ever going to get over it. I want to wallow in this for a while, and I want you to be comfortable with letting me do that. I’m sorry if it makes you uncomfortable and you don’t know what to say, but…