Posts Tagged‘family’

Boomerang Child

Boomerang

I have another confession to make: I’m a boomerang child. Apparently this is a trend with millennials- we get educated, get jobs (or not), and sometimes even start families before deciding to move back in with our own parents. People do this for A LOT of different reasons. We are blessed that we didn’t make the decision to live with my parents temporarily out of necessity- we have no financial or medical need to live with them right now. However, we are building our dream home, affectionately known as #heavilinhouse, and that costs MONEY, honey. So we decided to take my parents up on their 3 extra bedrooms (and really, who has 3 extra bedrooms if they don’t want someone to live in them?) and save tens of thousands of dollars during the construction process. It’s also SUPER convenient that my parents live literally right across the street, as in 20 feet, from the site of our #heavilinhouse. Ain’t nothing getting’ by us. Sorry, Jon (the builder), we’re those people. As little as a year ago I would have inserted a HEAVY eye roll at this latest confession and made a quick judgement on the author. She’s either lazy, an unfit mother who needs more help than her husband alone can offer, doesn’t manager her finances properly, etc. And I can TOTALLY see how others might think that. In our American culture, it’s just not normal to be living with your parents once you have initially fled the nest. So, I feel…

Working with Family: A Cautionary Tale

Work with family

When I tell most people that I work with my husband I’m typically met with a mix of shock and confusion: “What do you mean you work with your husband? Like all day? Every day? Full time?” “Oh, wow. I’d never be able to do that. We’d kill each other.” “Oh, so he must be your boss. I would never want to work FOR my husband.” Now, add in that our latest adventure has been moving back to Texas to work with my dad. Disbelief abounds: “All of you work together? All day? Every day?” “Oh, wow. I’d never be able to do that. We’d kill each other.” “OH! So your dad gave y’all jobs.” *insert eye roll* There are a lot of common misconceptions about working with family. One is that one or all of you do it out of desperation and not actual choice. Another is that one or all of you will end up dead at each other’s hands or at least disinvited to family gatherings at some point in the future. My favorite misconception is the “you must not work that hard/much” innuendos. People seem to believe that purposely subjecting yourself to working with family means you won’t be able to handle it for 45+ hours a week so you’re definitely a part timer. I know that some of you are curious of what might happen if you quit your 9-5 to tackle a family venture. If you’re thinking about jumping on the family business bandwagon,…