Today is my 26th birthday! YAY! I used to look forward to my birthday for months and weeks planning dinners and parties to celebrate my “birthday week”. Now that I’m a mom and insanely busy with life in general, celebrating my birthday seems frivolous and I honestly just don’t have the energy to devote to planning anything solely for me. I do always like to reflect on the years I’ve been blessed with and hope intentionally dream about the future, though.
I think most of us struggle and go through dark periods. I think that we all wish that we could go back and tell our 5 year old, 12 year old, even 26 year old self certain things. If I could go back and counsel myself at any age, I would tell her these 26 things:
26 Things I’ve Learned in 26 Years
- Spend time talking to God; even when you think He’s not listening, He is.
- You will slam the door in your Mom’s face every now and then but don’t ever go to sleep without telling her you love her.
- You will meet your husband on God’s timetable, not yours. Wait for that time.
- A good night’s sleep is the most important part of any beauty routine.
- But finding someone who can wax your nether regions and your eyebrows is time well spent.
- The ability to look others in the eye is a skill you MUST master.
- Being someone’s Best Friend is more important than just about anything.
- Most of what others say is for their benefit, not yours.
- Listen to actions more than words.
- Don’t put anything in writing– or on the internet- that you don’t want your grandmother and/or boss reading.
- Answer the phone when your grandparents call. Just do it.
- Understand that each time you see a loved one might be the last, cherish every moment.
- Love without abandon- even after you realize that person is flawed and imperfect, just like you.
- Don’t be surprised when your whole heart is wrapped up in one (or two) tiny, crying newborn babies.
- Enjoy every little moment as often as you can; An exhilarating football game, a good glass of wine, your daughter’s first words, are all blessings you will miss.
- Stand your ground. People will underestimate and try to intimidate you, don’t let them.
- Know that every person you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Extend grace to them.
- Go on the vacation. You won’t look back and regret time spent with those you love.
- Work your A$$ off. Every day prove to your coworkers, your boss, yourself that you deserve and will work for more.
- Learn to cook. The ability to treat yourself and your family to nourishing, delicious food is a gift; share it.
- Share your children with your extended family and friends. It takes a village; don’t be afraid to ask for help.
- Pray without ceasing. You don’t need to be in bed nor have your eyes closed to send God a quick shout out.
- Hold on to handwritten notes and cards from relatives; they might be the only relics you have of them one day.
- Plan for the future, but understand that your plan isn’t THE PLAN.
- Tell the truth. Even when it hurts. Even when it’s inconvenient or boring. Tell the truth.
- Find something to laugh at in every single day; even if that something is you.
I can’t wait to see what my 27th year has in store for me! Thanks for riding along on this roller coaster of life with me. I appreciate you all!